Ladies, if you share with your husband about something that you consider to be a personal shortcoming of yours, or an area that you want to improve in, can you count on him to listen in a non-judgmental way and show you that he accepts you unconditionally. For example, Ladies, if you want to start cooking more often, as opposed to picking up fast food for the family, and tell your husband that you are a little frustrated about not having done this sooner, how will he respond? Will he get an ‘A’ and score high on the vulnerability test by listening emphatically and being supportive? Or will he fail the vulnerability test, by saying something like “It’s about time . . . .” Since, your already aware that you want to make a change in this area, you really don’t need him to reinforce the point. In fact, his commentary could have the reverse impact. By listening in this way your husband can show that there is safety in the relationship and you won’t be judged. This exercise can strengthen the marriage greatly.
Today’s passionate relationship principle (PRP) comes in the form of a question: Wives, if you gave your husband a test of your vulnerability, how would he do?
Dr. Simon Whittaker – The Relationship Doctor at Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR)
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