It's 90% How You Say It

Today’s relationship principle is this, It's 90% How You Say It. In a previous blog post I described that, It’s not what you say,  it's how you say it.  The main point of that principle is that the way you speak to your spouse is more important than the actual words that are used.     For those who have mastered that principle, today's principle will build upon it and lead you to enjoy the satisfaction of your conversations in a way that many couples only dream of.  Today's principle is this, It's 90% How You Say It.  This principle embodies the reality that there are some things that you just shouldn't say to the person you love most.  Guys, if your girlfriend or wife was overweight when you met her and she’s still overweight, does she really need you to tell her that she’s overweight?  Ladies, if your boyfriend or husband had dropped out of college when you met him and he never went back, does really need you to tell him that he’s a college drop out?  These two examples are part of the 10% of things that you just shouldn’t say to the one you love most.   Nothing good can result from making such statements under these circumstances.  Remember, It’s 90% How You Say It. 

-  Dr. Simon, The Relationship Doctor at the Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR)

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