Considering the global pandemic of 2020, over 20 million job losses, social and racial unrest, the disruptions in our educational systems and the workforce, and having to spend more time than ever at home (with the people we say we love) . . . it's a good idea to keep things in perspective. If your relationship goal for 2020 was just to be able to smile at each other every day, and if you were able to achieve your goal congratulations.
If you've been a little more patient with your partner or spouse, you should count that as a success. If you've been able to grant each other a little more grace during this challenging time, that's a victory. If you've been able to laugh a little, and hug one another often, congratulations. During this time I've learned just how important my wife is. I'm also learning not to sweat the small stuff. In the final analysis all I have is God and family.
As come to the end of the year, it's a time of reflection. What goals did you have for the year? You probably had some personal goals. Maybe to exercise 4 days a week, or decrease your sugar or alcohol intake. You may have had some professional goals. Like learning a new skill for work or learning to use a new software program that will help you to be more effective at your job. Did you have goals for your relationship? Hummm. . . .
In celebrating our wedding anniversary recently, I was thinking about the fact that we've been married for 18 years. That's more than 150,000 hours. That's more than 9,460,800 minutes. Thanks more than 567,648,000 seconds. That means God has given me lots of opportunities to grow, to learn, to love, and to be loved. My Tyra . . . What a gift. What a blessing. What a journey . . . and this is only the beginning.
My wife, Tyra, and I recently celebrated another anniversary. I even took the day off so I wouldn't be distracted by work. For me taking the day off was a big deal. I have taken the day off before for things like traveling away for our couples vacation or a family vacation. But since we were just spending time together at home (trying to minimize traveling because of the pandemic) it would seem that there's no reason to take the day off work. Then I remembered that I didn't take the day off to avoid being distracted by work; I took the day off so that I could spend time with her and appreciate the incredible wife God has blessed me with. So, it's not like walking away from work for a day, it's like walking with my bride in the sunlight and focusing on us and this one moment in time.
Dr. Simon Whittaker is a relationship and sexual integrity coach, and former host of the Radio Talk Show Relationship Fridays. He helps singles prepare for their ideal relationship and helps couples enhance their relationship. He also and serves as a recovery coach specializing in addressing lust, porn, sex, and love addiction.
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