Boundaries, as described in some of the previous segments, are your guidelines for how people interact with you, for what you determine to be acceptable or unacceptable behavior. I would certainly be among the first to agree that love is vital in any long-term relationship, and certainly in marriage. However, without boundaries love cannot exist.
Men, in your marriage there should be boundaries regarding the words that you use when speaking to your wife. Of course if you use abusive or derogatory language in speaking to her, that would clearly not be within the boundaries of a loving relationship. Ladies, if you were to speak to your husband in a way that emasculates him, that is also not within the boundaries of a loving relationship. In both of these cases, you can expect the relationship to be severely impacted.
In order for your relationship to thrive, love is an important ingredient, but boundaries come first—love comes second!
Today’s passionate relationship principle (PRP) is this: Boundaries First, Love Second
Dr. Simon Whittaker – The Relationship Doctor at Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR)