​In celebrating our wedding anniversary recently, I was thinking about the fact that we've been married for 18 years.  That's more than 150,000 hours. That's more than 9,460,800 minutes.  Thanks more than 567,648,000 seconds.  That means God has  given me lots of opportunities to grow, to learn, to love, and to be loved.  My Tyra . . . What a gift.  What a blessing.  What a journey . . . and this is only the beginning. 

If you or your spouse would like to have a more intimate relationship, good communication and great listening are vital.  If you want to get the most out of your relationship, there are tools that you can use to enhance the communication.  Although there are different levels of listening, Pretend Listening, may hold some real jewels that can make your relationship even better.   So, even if your communication isn't all that you'd like for it to be, Pretend Listening can provide some valuable tools (check out the YouTube video on this topic:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf7R81Ej9UjRKFTe6-_Svzg  )


- Dr. Simon Whittaker

#loveCPR, #lovetalk, #communciationinmarriage, #relationshipcommunication 

Although communication is important in your relationship, not all aspects of communication have to same value.  There are some aspects of communication that can be much more effective in enhancing and maintaining a high level of connection between the two of you.  Of course it's important to be able to speak in a way that allows you to share your thoughts and feelings.  But for those who want a higher level of connection or emotional intimacy, effective listening can do more for your relationship than you might imagine (as described in the YouTube video https://youtu.be/7kHDC59dy34  )

Dr. Simon Whittaker

#loveCPR, #communciationinmarriage, #relationshipcommunication 

​Relationship Communication – Levels of Effective Listening
 
Effective listening is one of the most powerful skill sets you can have in your relationship.  There are 4 levels of communication and each one has its value, and can also be used as a springboard to the other levels of communication.  The four levels of communication we'll be addressing in this series are:  (1) pretend listening, (2) listening, (3) active listening, and (4) empathic listening.
 
 Click here for the YouTube Video describing the levels of effective listening. 
#loveCPR, #communicationinmarriage

Whether you’re married, engaged, dating, or single, being ready for a great relationship is vital. It's important to be marriageable (or as I sometimes say marryable).  This positions you to have a supportive, loving, emotionally intimate relationship as indicated in the short video clip  https://youtu.be/GANR8npsDwY​

​#LoveCPR

WISE-Center for Passionate Relationships
 
Tuesday, 10/20/2015 Teleconference

• Active Listening  Pt. 3
  • During the teleconference we focused on Active Listening and share some specific techniques you can use to enhance your relationship through communication.    In this teleconference (podcast) you’ll learn how to
    • Use active listening skills for clarification what your partner is saying
    • Use active listening skills for perception checking (to see what your partner thinks you’re really saying).  Keep in mind that your partner thinks you’re trying to say may not be what you’re trying to say at all.  Is it possible that your partner is getting the wrong message?
• The Passionate Relationship Principle (PRP) is a continuation of our previous principle: Good listening is a prerequisite to good communication.   
• In a previous session we presented a brief overview of the  4 types/levels of listening: 
  
  
• Pretend Listening (pretending your listening and paying attention)
  
  
• Listening (paying attention and being able to get the gist of what your partner is saying)
  
  
• Active Listening (following along with what your partner is saying and being ask appropriate questions)
  
  
• Empathic Listening (being aware of your partner’s emotions)

The teleconference is from 12pm-12:20pm (EST).  

The format: 12pm-12:20pm (EST). 

• 12:00pm-12:10pm --   Discuss the topic(s)
• 12:10pm-12:20pm  -- Address questions from callers

 
 
 
An audio recording was produced from the conference call.   It is  available on Facebook and also at http://www.centerforpassionaterelationships.com/podcasts.html

To connect to the conference call at 12pm EST.  Follow the steps below:

1.     Call 1-302-202-1108  This is the conference calling phone number.  It’s not toll free.   But, there are no extra charges, only what you phone provider charges for you to make the call.  

2.     Enter conference code: 959831

Helpful codes while on the teleconference:

4* - this mutes and unmutes your line (very helpful if your phone doesn’t have a mute function)

5* - This lets the host know that you want to ask a question

- Dr. Simon Whittaker -  Relationship and Sexual Integrity Coach at Whittaker Institute's Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR).  

#CommuinicationInMarriage, #lovecpr 

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WISE-Center for Passionate Relationships
 
Upcoming Topic for Tuesday, 10/13/2015 Teleconference

• Active Listening  Pt. 2
  • During the teleconference, we’ll focus on Active Listening and describe what it means and share some specific techniques you can use to enhance your relationship through communication.    

• The Passionate Relationship Principle (PRP) is a continuation of our previous principle: Good listening is a prerequisite to good communication.  

 

• In a previous session we presented a brief overview of the  4 types/levels of listening: 

• Pretend Listening (pretending your listening and paying attention)

• Listening (paying attention and being able to get the gist of what your partner is saying)

• Active Listening (following along with what your partner is saying and being ask appropriate questions)

• Empathic Listening (being aware of your partner’s emotions)

The teleconference is from 12pm-12:20pm (EST).  

We’ll be discussing this in the teleconference on Tuesday, 10/6/2015 from 12pm-12:20pm (EST). 

• 12:00pm-12:10pm --   Discuss the topic(s)
• 12:10pm-12:20pm  -- Address questions from callers

 
 
 
An audio recording will be made of the conference call.   It will be available on Facebook and also at http://www.centerforpassionaterelationships.com/podcasts.html

To connect to the conference call at 12pm EST.  Follow the steps below:

1.     Call 1-302-202-1108  This is the conference calling phone number.  It’s not toll free.   But, there are no extra charges, only what you phone provider charges for you to make the call.  

2.     Enter conference code: 959831

Helpful codes while on the teleconference:

4* - this mutes and unmutes your line (very helpful if your phone doesn’t have a mute function)

5* - This lets the host know that you want to ask a question

- Dr. Simon Whittaker -  Relationship and Sexual Integrity Coach at Whittaker Institute's Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR).  

#CommuinicationInMarriage, #lovecpr 
 
 
 

Tuesday, 10/6/2015 Teleconference - Center for Passionate Relationships
 
The Passionate Relationship Principle (PRP) for today’s teleconference is a continuation of our previous principle: Good listening is a prerequisite to good communication.  

o   In a previous session we presented a brief overview of the  4 types/levels of listening: 

• Pretend Listening (pretending your listening and paying attention)

• Listening (paying attention and being able to get the gist of what your partner is saying)

• Active Listening (following along with what your partner is saying and being ask appropriate questions)

• Empathic Listening (being aware of your partner’s emotions)

During the teleconference, we’ll focus on Active Listening and describe what it means and how you can tell if you’re engaged at this level of listening.    

We’ll be discussing this in the teleconference on Tuesday, 10/6/2015 from 12pm-12:20pm (EST). 

• 12:00pm-12:10pm --   Discuss the topic(s): Active Listening 
• 12:10pm-12:20pm  -- Address questions from callers

 
 
 
An audio recording will be made of the conference call.   It will be available on Facebook and also at http://www.centerforpassionaterelationships.com/podcasts.html

To connect to the conference call at 12pm EST.  Follow the steps below:

1.     Call 1-302-202-1108  This is the conference calling phone number.  It’s not toll free.   But, there are no extra charges, only what you phone provider charges for you to make the call.  

2.     Enter conference code: 959831

Helpful codes while on the teleconference:

4* - this mutes and unmutes your line (very helpful if your phone doesn’t have a mute function)

5* - This lets the host know that you want to ask a question

- Dr. Simon Whittaker -  Relationship and Recovery Coach at Whittaker Institute's Center for Passionate Relationships (CPR).  

#CommuinicationInMarriage, #lovecpr